Supporting Someone Affected by Gambling

It can be hard to watch someone you care about struggle with gambling or money problems. You might feel worried, frustrated, or unsure what to say. You might have tried to help before — only to feel pushed away or blamed.

You’re not alone. There are kind and safe ways to support someone who’s affected by gambling while still taking care of yourself.

Recognising when someone might need help

Everyone’s different, but here are some signs that gambling might be becoming a problem:

• They’re spending more time or money on gambling than before.
• They seem stressed, secretive or defensive about money.
• Bills, rent or essentials aren’t being paid.
• They’re borrowing money, selling belongings, or taking loans to gamble.
• You notice mood swings, anger, or withdrawal from family and friends.

If some of these sound familiar, it might be time to gently start a conversation.

Starting the conversation

Talking about gambling can be uncomfortable, but showing care and concern can make a real difference.

Here are some gentle ways to start:

• Choose a calm, private time to talk.
• Focus on care, not criticism — for example: “I’ve noticed you seem worried about money lately. Are you okay?”
• Ask open questions, such as: “How have things been going with gambling?”
• Listen without judgement — you don’t need to have all the answers.
• Avoid anger, blame or guilt — those can make the person shut down.

You can’t make someone stop gambling, but your support can help them feel less alone and more ready to get help.

Looking after yourself

Supporting someone with gambling problems can be draining. It’s important to protect your own wellbeing too.

• Set boundaries. It’s okay to say no to lending money or paying someone’s debts.
• Protect your finances. Keep your accounts and cards separate and secure.
• Talk to someone. Counselling or support for yourself can help you cope with stress and worry.
• Take breaks. Do things that bring calm — walking, reading, connecting with supportive people.

You can care deeply for someone and still make your own wellbeing a priority.

How financial counsellors can help

If gambling has caused financial stress — for you or for the person you care about — afinancial counsellorcan help. They can:

• Help sort out debts and make a clear plan.
• Talk with creditors or lenders to reduce pressure.
• Support you in protecting your own finances.
• Link both of you with specialist gambling and wellbeing services.

Financial counsellors are free, confidential, and non-judgmental. They’re here to help you find practical solutions and peace of mind.

Speak to someone today

If you’re worried about someone’s gambling, or your own wellbeing, reach out for support. You don’t have to manage it on your own.

A simple conversation could be the first step toward change — for both of you.

Free, confidential financial counselling and specialist counselling assistance is available by calling Better Place Australia on 1800 639 523.